May 14

Sex for Fun and Profit—Part 1

In Brief— A both prurient and serious look at our midsections, the ecstasy, the warnings and the dangers. [Written in February 2017.]


Sex is Popular Because It’s Centrally Located—

Prostitution. It’s said to be the world’s oldest profession. Why? What’s so special about sexual intercourse? Why do so many of us, from politicians and prudes to kids and elders, both males and females, gravitate to it like iron filings to a magnet? This piece examines the attraction we all feel with this intimate part of our bodies.

“Birds do it, bees do it. Even educated fleas do it…” goes the old Cole Porter song. Humans have copulated since before we came down out of the trees and continued our evolutionary climb. Contrary to what religion tells us, procreation was merely a secondary result of the instinct that exists in many of Earth’s species. It’s a way for nature to perpetuate the species, but the instinct comes first.

That short prelude of Biology 101 is merely an introduction to today’s anything-goes society in which we find aging stars writing tell-all books to titillate a voyeuristic audience, young people “sexting” on their smartphones, politicians bragging about their sexual exploits and married couples risking divorce by swapping spouses. As I said at the outset, our sexuality is at the center of not only our bodies but of society.

Dangers, Warnings and Exploiters—

What are some of the dangers to be found in the realm of sex?

There are sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) such as syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, genital herpes, crabs and others. Often a person with an STD doesn’t even know s/he is infected, but they can result in an inability to have children or even death if the disease is untreated.

What about HIV/AIDS? While the ones mentioned above can be cured or eliminated, this life-long viral disease can only be treated but not cured. Sure, there are protections, but how often are sexual partners so eager to ball that protection doesn’t even flicker through their overheated minds? Face it, the contraceptive pill isn’t a protection against anything but pregnancy.

This little blog is not designed to answer questions. For that, Planned Parenthood or a doctor should be consulted, but I would be remiss for failing to mention the danger of the exploiters. These people, males and females, are in the sex trade for the money, the “profit” of the title.

“Trafficking,” providing sex to ready buyers, doesn’t take place only in Asia, Latin American countries or Europe, it takes place in America and every corner of the world. The exploiters often take advantage of the vulnerable young victims by promises of jobs, fame and money only to exploit or brutalize them into submission and servitude. Sex sells whether it’s a vulnerable victim or a willing prostitute.

We can see that there are dangers associated with the human libido that can lurk behind the joy to be found. There are sexually transmitted diseases and greedy traffickers, as well as the expected physical and emotional release we usually think of. There is occasional physical pain and the emotional pain of unfulfilled sexual longing.

Additionally, let’s not forget the physical and emotional pain associated with exploitation of vulnerable young people by repressed adults with power over their victims. Religion, and particularly the Catholic Church, has revealed this hidden crime. Here, we see the power of sexuality fully exposed.

Last of all, but definitely not least, is rape. It may be a mistake to call this a sexual crime. In fact, it is a crime of power, of coercion. Rape is more than a crime, it is a sign of moral weakness. The Catholic Church particularly must take meaningful steps on this front.

Sex for Young and Old—

Finally, sexual intercourse is a magnet for all of us whether in the vitality of youth or the complaints of the old. The young have very little real world experience or much sense but loads of flooding hormones. The elderly have both experience and sense (in most cases) but want companionship to ease the loss of virility or partners. Young people seek adventure and conquests while old folks look for comfort when faced with the inevitable guarantee of oblivion.

On that note, I conclude today’s lesson with an awareness that sexuality encompasses far more than what has been presented. Next week, I’ll expose a little of myself, but until then readers can tell me what I’ve overlooked today.

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  1. Thanks for Sex 101. I recommend “The Johns: Sex for Sale and the Men Who Buy It” by Victor Malarek for a look at the downside of prostitution for those who aren’t aware. It’s not an easy life for sex workers and there are many dangers. And of course there are the many women and children targeted by traffickers. Sex for sale harms or kills many women and children.

    I hope you include the Nordic Model of prostitution in a future blog. It’s the law in a number of Nordic countries as well as Canada and now France, and takes the onus off the sex workers and puts it on the johns. Sex work is legal but buying it isn’t and I’m curious what you know about it’s effects in Sweden – if in fact it’s the law in Sweden.

    The fact is that sex harms many victims, including children, and it’s fine for those of us who enjoy it in a relationship but it’s caused untold harm when forced on those victims.

    And South Africa has the highest incidence of HIV/AIDS in the world so we’re very aware of that danger.

      • Don Bay on May 15, 2017 at 07:12

      Your recommendation of the book will lead some of the readers to read it. As for the law in Sweden, I know very little other than the fact the Nordic Model is the law here. I’ve read some articles saying that the law is lightly enforced, but I don’t know if it has put a dent in the demand side of the sex trade. I know that Sweden protects the victims to the extent the state is aware of them. I believe that Sweden does its bit to influence other nations to take active steps to find and prosecute traffickers, but I don’t know how effective that is. Being a cynic, I suspect other nations do very little. Corruption is widespread.

      HIV/AIDS is a world-wide scourge, but while you and some countries are finally taking steps to diminish the scourge, it still exists and will continue as long as thoughtless males devalue females and as long as myths persist. Unquestionably, religion plays its ugly part. Fingers crossed that science will find a cure to replace the life-long treatment of today.

      Thanks for doing what you are doing and for raising our awareness.

    • Arthur Ulene on May 15, 2017 at 06:19

    Don….. I just cannot resist commenting on your statement that you are going to expose a little more of yourself. Coming, as it does, at the end of a commentary on sex…. and a promise of more….. what could you possibly mean by that? I guess I’ll just have to wait and see…, read, what you have in mind. All the best…… Art

      • Don Bay on May 15, 2017 at 07:19

      Although you will just have to wait a week to scratch that curiosity itch, I’m pleased that you took the time to climb aboard Mr. Toad’s Wild Ride. Enjoy the ride!

    • mccart on May 28, 2017 at 23:47

    hi here

      • Don Bay on May 29, 2017 at 06:42

      Welcome to Mr. Toad’s Wild Ride. It would be helpful if you contributed more than just a greeting. Assuming you are from Idaho and are wise, we look forward to what you have to say about the blog piece du jour.

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